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Why I Won't Be Celebrating Valentine's Day

2/14/2016

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Well, this is it.      Today is the day.         The undisputed "day of love" that most women count down to and most men forget (unless they are reminded by their women).

This day can often make or break a relationship.      The man truly does forget and their significant other then broods all day while the man is left oblivious to the entire situation.     

I get it.   I really do.       I was one of those women - obsessed with this holiday - demanding a list (in my brain) from my husband and then pouting for days when he didn't come through.

But the older I got, the less importance I discovered in this holiday and then stopped celebrating  it altogether.    Does that make me bitter?     Uncaring?    Unloving?

Absolutely not.     In fact, it makes me the complete opposite.   

You see, I am a hopeless romantic.      I believe in everlasting love.    I believe in my knight in shining armor.     And I believe in soul mates.

I know all of these things to be true because I found my everlasting love when I just sixteen years old.   My knight in shining armor rode in (in his trust Chevy pickup) and swept me off my feet rescuing me from a life without love.       He is my soul mate and we have been married for over 27 years.

So, yes, I believe in love with all of my being but I also believe that love needs to be shown EVERY day - not just one day chosen by Hallmark to sell lots of cards and candy.

Besides, seriously,  what if my husband made me really mad on Valentine's Day and instead of buying him candy, I want to throw a pie in his face?   Wait, does that count as a gift?    Never mind.

Or the more likely scenario, I was behaving badly and my husband wasn't exactly in the mood to give me a present or spend an entire evening at dinner starting at each other in silence.

My point is this:    love should not be forced just because the date on the calendar says it should be.   Love should be shown every single day.

We don't need the calendar to tell us to buy a gift for someone or to let someone know that we love them.       Life is short - we need to be saying those things every day.

Now I know that today social media will be filled with Valentine's Day posts and pictures and that is okay.  I am just encouraging you to post those love sonnets on other days of the year as well.

If you are single today, rejoice!     God has a great plan for your life if you just wait on Him.     Be your own Valentine because loving yourself is just as important as loving someone else.

If your significant other "forgot" today, don't be upset (it's not life ending - really, it's not).    Rejoice in the fact that he or she loves you and begin finding ways to share that love a little bit every day.

Oh - and go buy yourself that cupcake - you deserve it!







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